When I see an email from a previous client (the return client), there is a sense of excitement and comfort. The exciting part is that someone whom I’ve already met who no doubt I would love to see again, is back and wants to see me.
The comfort part is that I don’t have to worry about “who is this person” will I feel comfortable with him, while naked, more than that, we can continue where we left off.
The Return Client-What I Offer
I’m not the therapist diving into the “why” and “how” of fixing someone. Quite the opposite—my time with my clients is a celebration of their needs. Whether it’s a secret desire they wish to explore, or just the pleasure of having someone to talk
Is it some kind of secret kinkiness? Just invite me over, open up your suitcase, and let it all out. You’ll get no criticism from me, no funny looks. Since I’ve been doing this for while, I have seen quite a few different kinks so it would take a lot to surprise me.
Why 2 hours?
I have found that 2 hours is actually a more comfortable. Even though I don’t have an alarm that goes off at 60 minutes and I’m not a “clock watcher” both of us know that we do have a time limit and that 60 minutes seems to be hanging over our heads. When my visit is for 2 hours, its far more comfortable, relaxing, natural, whatever we are doing there is no tension, no wondering if we are getting close to the end of the hour. With two hours we just seem to naturally end the visit.
Fetish Relief
Like a friend we get to pick up where we left off, even if it was half a year ago. There is also something else, something that only the return client can get, what I call the “fetish relief.” The fetish may be new, it may be as old as the marriage (the wife not being interested in such things or the man being embarassed by it), but with me, the client gets to let it out and for some, its just a relief. No longer having this thing, this fantasy in his head constantly there.
It may take several meetings, but by allowing his fetish to be explored, the constant urge may gradually diminish. It’s not about it disappearing entirely, but rather the intensity of the urge weakening. And that makes for a happy client, which in turn makes me happy