I truly enjoy when I receive emails from people who have read my website, read my blogs and have expressed an interest in meeting with them. Those people usually write a very nice email about why they would like to meet with some additional information about themselves.

This blog is about their reactions when I decline to meet with them.

First an explanation of why I may decline to meet with certain people. My concern is my own privacy and safety, I wrote about this in an earlier post that you can read here: Escort Risk Assessment and its Mitiagation

So how do they react? It can vary and sometimes its telling that I made the right decision. The most extreme was the guy who mentioned that not only does he have high connections in the gov’t through his father, but that if we don’t meet at a certain hotel (a real sleazy one), he will tell his mossad connections to discover my identity, replace my website with his own and expose me – wow, so I’m still waiting on that exposure to happen. And of course he wrote back and gave me a second chance, which I though was very gallant of him.

And They Can be Funny

After receiving a very kind invitation to meet, along with an explanation that at the typical age of the 40s his sex life with his wife had dwindled to near zero, leading him to explore alternatives, which is how he found my site. Despite a very well written email, with just the right amount of emotion, I still had to turn him down.

His reaction, as his initial letter was well written and thoughtful and he wrote this:

I’m used to being turned down from my wife, so that’s not new, but when you turned me down, as promised in your website you gave me a real GFE!

I actually laughed out loud when I read his response.

Just bad luck…and the acceptance

Visiting Israel for a conference, as part of a group, the choosing of the hotel is not in the hands of the individual, nor is their time schedule flexible. Usually they have some free time when they arrive and sometimes when the conference is over. Sometimes they are all on the same floor, which means have a slim young pretty girl walking in to one of the rooms may be noticed (I always ask the door be open, so I’m not left outside knocking while the guy is in the shower…… but I still have to walk the length of the hallway).

If the time a client is free doesn’t work for me, I’ll try to shuffle my schedule, but sometimes it just can’t happen. And if the hotel (which is becoming more common with boutique places) isn’t in one of the better areas, especially in the early evening, I might have to pass as well. These people are always professionals as their first priority is the conference, I’m just the bonus after their work is done (or before it has started).

So when we realize its not going to happen and this would be after multiple emails starting from even before they have arrived, they are always polite and respectful. We usually end it with a “perhaps next time.” The downside for both us, is the time spent trying to work out the time to meet with many emails and last minute schedule changes.